If you find it difficult to have sex with the lights on, because you are conscious of your wobbly bits, try using a blindfold on your partner. You could make your own blindfold from a scarf or piece of fabric or you could buy the type used to block out light while flying from sex toys online store. They usually come with earplugs too. More about that later. It seems to hold true that blocking out one of our senses enhances the remaining senses. Whether this is physiological or psychological in origin matters not. What's important is that you can enjoy exploring these ideas with your partner. By now I imagine some of you are thinking this all sounds a bit kinky. I'd prefer to use the word different, different to what you do normally, because what you do normally isn't meeting your needs. Too Kinky! This is about gaining confidence and having fun with your partner. This is about enjoying your intimate relationships more fully and being sexually creative, overcoming obstacles that are causing you pain. Personally I dislike labels such as kinky. They come from the same limiting beliefs that tell us, we are too old or we are passed it. For the purpose of this article, let's put aside our limiting beliefs and consider the benefit of doing things differently. I am purposely harping on about this for good reason. Could it be that body consciousness is another limiting belief. I think so. I think that modern society has done a great job in making people feel less. Less attractive, less worthy and less appealing. Ironically, two decades ago, Women were asked to select an ideal body size for themselves, as well as their perception of what mens ideal female figure was. In both scenarios, Women chose a figure slimmer than average. When men were asked which female figure they preferred, they selected a figure of average body size. It would appear that American women believe that men crave thinner women than is the case. Could that gap be even wider today? Back to Blindfolds A great way to introduce blindfold play to your partner, is to suggest swapping over half way through the session. Making up some blindfold rules can be very sexy too. Maybe the one blindfolded has to lay still and simply enjoy. There could be a no penetration rule during blindfold sessions. That will certainly build up the sexual tension between you both and encourage more foreplay. Once the blindfold is on, you can experiment with different textures brushed against their skin. You could slip into something sexy and surprise them when they open their eyes. Giving a sensual massage is another powerful way of enhancing the senses. And don't forget to try out those earplugs. With sight and sound cut off, your touch will become electrifying, it may give you a taste for even more intimate exploration. Could putting on a blindfold help you and your partner lose your sexual blinkers and make you both less conscious of your bodies. I'd like to think so. Read also: No Matter What Your Sexual Lifestyle Is, Practice Safe Sex
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