One way to add more interest and spice to oral sex is to include some male sex toys. While some of these types of toys might be more commonly used to please a woman, they can also add an additional level of intensity to a man's fellatio experience. Let us look at two of the most popular sex toys online available: 1) THE VIBRATOR A vibrator can often be used to excite a man during oral sex. While you are stroking his penis with your tongue and mouth, you can also be massaging the base of his penis, or his sensitive perineum area with a small vibrator. The perineum, which is the area between the anus and the scrotum, is extremely sensitive, and most men love to have this area massaged manually during oral sex. Using luxury vibrators instead of manual massage can be an exciting twist. There are also vibrators that are designed to be fitted on the tongue, which can be a fun variation on oral sex. 2) THE PENIS RING There are also other toys that you can use to increase the pleasure of fellatio. Some men enjoy using a penis ring, which not only makes the penis harder and larger, but it also produces a more intense ejaculation. Using a penis ring not only intensifies the sensations, but is often a mental thrill for the man. There are also a number of different lubricants that can be used during this act. Some of these provide different sensations, such as warmth or tingling, or add flavors, which can be an exciting addition to oral sex, both for the man as well as the woman. What Is Best For You? If this sounds a little advanced for you then do not worry. Nobody should make you do anything you are not comfortable with. If you would like to learn some of the basic techniques for fantastic fellatio or even if you are ready for the more advanced methods, help is at hand nowadays.
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Have you ever wondered why your woman is not interested in sex lately? Why is she bored with sex? For all the guys who think that women are playing mind games with them when it comes to sex, the problem may not lie with them, it could be you. When you are about to have sex with a woman, the last thing you want to do is to turn her off. Many men are unaware of what they are doing wrong in bed, thinking they know everything there is needed to know about having sex with women. Do you inadvertently make the following mistakes which may have prevented you from becoming a better lover? 1) Assuming you know everything about what she wants When comes to women, there is no such thing as a one-size-fits-all strategy, whether it is inside or outside of the bedroom. There is no one special dating or sexual techniques manual that can be applicable to all women. This is because every woman is different, each of her personality, likes and dislikes are shaped by her individual life experiences. What you can learn from those dating and lovemaking manuals is to learn and know about these ideas and when you put them into practice, you have to improvise, adjust and customize in order for these ideas to work effectively on any particular woman. 2) You are probably too dogmatic Some women who have orgasm difficulty probably need a lot more vibrations or extra help in order to come. You may be too busy doing one thing to be able to have enough time to stimulate her other erogenous zones. But men tend to think something must be wrong with a woman if she needs a vibrator. Think of Luxury vibrators as your assistant, not your substitute. Many couples use luxury vibrators and other high quality sex toys together. For example, while you are busily stimulating her g-spot, the vibrator can be used to stimulate the clitoris or perineum (the area between the vaginal opening and anus). 3) You think that what feels good for you is equally pleasurable for her There tends to be a "huge gulf" between men and women about how sex feels good. Some men are rather "superstitious" in believing that a big size male organ can give women a heavy dosage of pleasure when they push deeper and thrust harder, which feel good for most men. The fact is, the inside of the vagina is less sensitive than the outer part for most women. Due to this reason, deep thrusting is not an effective way to make a woman orgasm. If the penis is too long, it may cause her painful sex. 4) You ignore everything but her breasts and vagina Why some men seem to have a rather difficult time in pleasing a woman? This is because most of them seem to believe that penetration will give her screaming orgasms. However, the vaginal wall has very little in the way of pleasure building nerve endings. Due to this reason, about 75% of women never have an orgasm during intercourse. Sexual stimulation for a woman is not an on/off switch. Just because you touch a certain spot on her body, does not necessarily mean you are going to make her come. Before you even think about making contact with her genitalia, you need to make her feel loved and relaxed. How sexually satisfied she is, will depend to a great extent on her state of mind. You should focus on her entire body and pay attention to other parts of her body such as licking behind her knees, kissing her wrists, rubbing her back and caressing her stomach. This can mentally prepare her for sex and will turn her on a lot more and in turn, increase the chances of her pleasuring you back. 5) You think that she is turned on when she gets wet Some guys are of the view that if she is turned on, she will get wet and if she does not, he will feel that he is doing a lousy job of not pleasing her enough. This mistake can also lead men to prematurely end the foreplay on their women. The fact is some women tend to get wetter than others and how much she lubricates can change from day to day. It can vary by the phase of her menstrual cycle and is subjected to influences likes stress and medication. Once the marriage is few years old and the couples have settled in their daily routine intimacy between the couples take a back seat. Irregular shifts, busy routines, demanding in laws and children at home and bosses at office. Life starts to suck and boredom creeps in. And after a hard day at both office and home sex either becomes a routine to be followed or completely forgotten. This is not just the case with the couples where both man and wife are working; it has become a common phenomenon among the present generation couples. So what to do? How to bring back that intimacy? Well here are few steps that may help you to bring back that lost passion and thus helping you to improve your sex life. 1) Communicate Communication is the most important thing to keep any relation alive most importantly marriage. So keep the channels of communication open. Remember your spouse is also human so if you don't tell what's on your mind he will not know. Be direct in communicating your needs because men don't take hints. They simply don't understand them. 2) De-clutter your bedroom Take out all the extras from your bedroom. Extras here would mean high quality sex toys such as Lelo Vibrators, books, newspapers; magazines (keep the adult ones though). Also don't store luggage in your bedroom. Couples after a few years of marriage become complacent and hence start leaving their dirty laundry either in the bathroom or in the bedroom. Don't. This is your bedroom not a laundry basket or store room. 3) Get rid of distractions Television, computers, laptops or any such things should not find place in your bedroom. Of course you need to have a music system in the room but not the home theatre. If you are short on space then keep the TV either in the drawing room so that everybody has an easy access to it. Same goes for the PCs. Laptops can be kept in the cupboard or in the study where nobody can touch it. 4) Make your bedroom your romantic haven Your bedroom should be your romantic haven. So decorate it with love. Put scented candles, flowers (dry potpourri, artificial or fresh flowers), aroma oils, and all things that create an impression of lovers den. 5) Choose soft lighting Remove all the harsh lighting of bulbs and instead go for pink bulbs they radiate a soft glow and will create an ambiance suited for some fun with your spouse. If you don't want to remove the bulbs you can use cellophane papers to cover the lights. 6) Use inviting bedspreads and curtains Use silk, satin or sateen bedspreads for the nights at least if you can not put them throughout the day because everybody loves to sit in your bedroom. Use flowing curtains for the doors and windows in your bedroom to create a soft look. 7) Take care of yourself Don't forget to take care of yourself while taking care of the needs of your children, in laws or your spouse. Your spouse will appreciate it more if you take some time out for yourself as well. 8) Get away on romantic weekends As the pressure of life increases outings are usually with the family including children and other relatives. So make sure to ditch the family once in a while and go on a romantic weekend. You can go to nearby place but make sure to go out as a couple and not as parents or children or siblings. Couple time outside bedroom is really important to improve your relationship which will help in improving your sex life 9) Play soft music Shut out every noise from your bedroom and play some soft romantic music. Music is known to have a calming and soothing effect on the tensed body and is a great source of relaxation after a hard day at work. However, ensure that the sound does not go out of your room else your nosy in laws will come banging on your door to switch off and go to sleep. 10) Use candles Candles and romance go hand in hand. The soft light radiating from the candles is considered as a mood enhancer. So place few scented candles in your bedroom and then watch how moods change. 11) Do things that connect you How long has it been since you and your spouse did anything that connected you as a couple. Don't let family take over your couples' time. Remember you both are a couple first and then parents or siblings, so do things that connect you as a couple. It can be taking a shower together, or giving each other a sensual aroma massage or taking a bubble bath. You got the idea, connect as a couple and you will see tremendous improvement in your sex life. These are just few of the ways you can improve your sex life, surely if you think and use your creativity you can find more ways to improve yours sex life. Happy bonding with your spouse! Read also: Reasons for Trying a Cock Ring Love making positions can drastically vary from top to bottom, under and over, diagonal, horizontal, vertical, sideways, and it goes on and on. You can basically choose or create your own favorite love making positions by simply applying the following criteria:
1) For a love making position to be both effective and pleasurable you must make sure you focus on comfort. It's a simple yet strong element which can make or, sometimes literally, break, any love making position. Individual consideration such as susceptibility to back pain, standing or kneeling preferences over lying, and so forth, should be focused on as well. But overall, establish a general sense of comfort and you can't go wrong. 2) Seek out psychological pleasure when performing love making positions. What turns you on both physically and psychologically? Many times it is the visual sight of seeing your partner in a certain position or configuration that is a major, major turn on. This depends on individual, but focusing on your psychological turn ons can create winning love making positions time and again. 3) Pick a position where your able to "stay in the groove", or "maintain". Maintaining refers to the ability of both partners being able to maintain their pleasure levels until orgasm arrives. This probably falls more on the male who may have a preferable love making position that allows him to "remain in the zone" until it's time. But this also applies to the female where a particular love making position may be hard to maintain pleasure throughout. The key is to discover and create a handful of erotic and effective love making position that includes a strong amount of the above three elements. If one fits one partner better than the other, then it is very important to take turns engaging in the desired preferential positions. Also read: 12 Ways to Improve Your Sexual Performance (For Men) For many of us, making love starts by taking a shower either alone or with your girl. However, for a change from the usual routine, you can also start having sex with your girl in the bathroom. Standing naked face to face, with steaming hot water running down your bodies can be extremely seductive and arousing. This setting is naturally conducive to sensual caress, oral attention and deep kissing. Making love in the bathroom is a highly effective form of foreplay. It also offers a perfect opportunity to get quickie sex. The bathroom is also a perfect alternative place for sex when you do not have privacy. In the following paragraphs, I will talk about how you can turn your bathroom into a love den.
(1) Practice safe sex What I mean here is you need to take precautionary measures to avoid any unnecessary injuries because the floor can be very slippery. The best way is to use a rubber mat or adhesive grips. If you do not have anything to hold on to, in the bathroom, go to the nearby hardware store to get those handles or towel rods that can be stick firmly to the shower wall. You may consider adding a sturdy, rubber-bottomed stool as a sex prop. They can provide added support and stability for you and your girl and if positioned correctly, can boost eroticism. Although steamy can be sexy, you should ensure there is enough ventilation to prevent either one of you from getting suffocated or dizzy. (2) Make the place clean and spacious Soap scum and piles of hair clogging the drain can be a big turn-off for shower sex. Your girl may find it hard to get in the mood if your bathroom looks and smells like a storeroom. Therefore, make sure the place is reasonably hygiene, have a fresh scent and clean towers and should not be cramped with unnecessary stuff. After you finish, make sure all the leftover bodily fluid is rinsed so that it will not leave any sticky stain which can be hard to clean later. (3) Create a conducive environment Many of the same accessories that you use for lovemaking in the bedroom can be applicable for bathroom sex such as candles and scented massage oil. If you are using a nicely scented soap do keep it away from the vagina because the chemical may cause irritation to this area. Make it fun with lots of foreplay to get lubricated. Keep a bottle of silicone (not water-based) lubricant on hand because water can quickly wash away natural lubrication. (4) Spend time cleaning up each other's body Cleaning up one another is an intimate and seductive act. You can do this by using a sponge, soft wash-cloth, mild soap or gentle shampoo on each other's body. Make sure you take your time to caress each other's erogenous zones and feel free to be naughty with your tongue or finger(s). This activity is a natural lead to other sensual stuff such as oral sex, erotic shaving and anal sex. This is also the place for you to try some racier oral sex positions. But make sure you stimulate her enough to get her turn on because a common complaint from women is that shower sex takes too much concentration without enough pleasure. (5) Get some water toys You can always spice up your lovemaking activities in the bathroom by using high end sex toys, probably a dildo that you could suction to the shower wall. You and your girl can take a trip to a sex toys online store to choose for splash-proof, hands-free stuff that can be worn by either of you or her. It is a great idea to get a quality shower head because it is one of those favorite 'sex toys' women love to use when they masturbate. Your girl will appreciate the gesture and will enjoy the pleasure from the massaging effect of having water sprinkling on the sensitive parts of her body. (6) The Sex Positions You Can Try The most appropriate positions are variations of the standing rear entry positions. Like a cop doing a body search, ask your girl to place her hands on the wall with her legs spread and you enter her from behind. You can also ask her to bend over and then support her by the wrists as you penetrate her. If you want to look into each other's eyes, if you are about the same height as her and if her body is flexible, you can get her to lift up one of her legs to place beside your waist with your hand supporting this raised leg, and then you enter her, a sort of standing missionary position. If you want to do some acrobatic stance, you can hold your girl up firmly with her legs wrap round your waist. When you want to be in a slightly relaxed position, you can get down on your knees to do her a doggie. If you find it difficult to have sex with the lights on, because you are conscious of your wobbly bits, try using a blindfold on your partner. You could make your own blindfold from a scarf or piece of fabric or you could buy the type used to block out light while flying from sex toys online store. They usually come with earplugs too. More about that later. It seems to hold true that blocking out one of our senses enhances the remaining senses. Whether this is physiological or psychological in origin matters not. What's important is that you can enjoy exploring these ideas with your partner. By now I imagine some of you are thinking this all sounds a bit kinky. I'd prefer to use the word different, different to what you do normally, because what you do normally isn't meeting your needs. Too Kinky! This is about gaining confidence and having fun with your partner. This is about enjoying your intimate relationships more fully and being sexually creative, overcoming obstacles that are causing you pain. Personally I dislike labels such as kinky. They come from the same limiting beliefs that tell us, we are too old or we are passed it. For the purpose of this article, let's put aside our limiting beliefs and consider the benefit of doing things differently. I am purposely harping on about this for good reason. Could it be that body consciousness is another limiting belief. I think so. I think that modern society has done a great job in making people feel less. Less attractive, less worthy and less appealing. Ironically, two decades ago, Women were asked to select an ideal body size for themselves, as well as their perception of what mens ideal female figure was. In both scenarios, Women chose a figure slimmer than average. When men were asked which female figure they preferred, they selected a figure of average body size. It would appear that American women believe that men crave thinner women than is the case. Could that gap be even wider today? Back to Blindfolds A great way to introduce blindfold play to your partner, is to suggest swapping over half way through the session. Making up some blindfold rules can be very sexy too. Maybe the one blindfolded has to lay still and simply enjoy. There could be a no penetration rule during blindfold sessions. That will certainly build up the sexual tension between you both and encourage more foreplay. Once the blindfold is on, you can experiment with different textures brushed against their skin. You could slip into something sexy and surprise them when they open their eyes. Giving a sensual massage is another powerful way of enhancing the senses. And don't forget to try out those earplugs. With sight and sound cut off, your touch will become electrifying, it may give you a taste for even more intimate exploration. Could putting on a blindfold help you and your partner lose your sexual blinkers and make you both less conscious of your bodies. I'd like to think so. Read also: No Matter What Your Sexual Lifestyle Is, Practice Safe Sex No matter who you are if you do the same things over and over again it will get a little stale. This doesn't even matter if you enjoy the person that you are with. One of the biggest dangers to a relationship is boredom. Add these ideas to your sex tool box and watch the excitement return again. 1) Toys. They are not just for kids. Visit a sex toys online store. There is no excuse for not having everything you need to have fun at your finger tips. No matter how good a man is he can't vibrate. Go for luxury vibrators Don't forget him. There are also mens sex toys. The high end sex toys are the ones that a couple can share together. 2) Food. How can food be sexy? It depends on where you put it. Let your partner be the after dinner desert. Just think of where you could put the cherry. Chocolate, cherries, cheese, and wine can all make for a nice evening. 3) Movies. Want more than a Blockbuster night? Check out some adult films. You can even learn some things. Don't get too carried away with the positions. Remember it should be fun and not dangerous. Those are professionals and some things shouldn't be tried at home. Just lay back and enjoy the movie and each other. 4) Trips. Sometimes the best thing you can do for your sex life is take it on the road. You don't even have to go far. Just rent a room and pretend like you are going out of town. A change of locations can add a little spice to your romance. And remember what happens in the hotel room stays in the hotel room. 5) Position. Tired of the same old positions? Try something new. Read a book, talk to a friend or search the internet. Try some new positions that are easy, but fun. Work up to the more advanced positions. You don't want to end up with a new story to tell your doctor. 6) Relax. Stress, work, children and all the daily chores of life can lower your sex drive. Try as much as possible to relax. Take a bath, get a massage or listen to your favorite music. Just take time for yourself. Then when you do come back to the bedroom, the sex will be better than ever. 7) Find someone new. This one is not for those that are in a committed relationship. Try to work it out as much as possible if you can. But if the problem is that you can't find the right person, go on the internet and find someone. There are many places that you can find new friends to have fun with. When you first get diagnosed with herpes, it can feel like the end of the world. You may feel like life as you know it is over, and one of the most common misconceptions about genital herpes is that you'll never have a normal sex life again. Well, I'm here to tell you that simply aren’t true. With a few precautions and a lot of common sense, you'll find that you can have sex after herpes, and a varied and fulfilling sex life at that. The first thing you have to realize is things are going to be a bit different from now on, and you are probably going to have to be a bit more careful than you were in the past. The first thing to know is you'll absolutely need to avoid penetrative sex if you or your partner is currently experiencing a herpes outbreak on your genitals. This is the main unfortunate downside to sex after herpes. If both you and your partner between outbreaks, you can have full penetrative vaginal, anal or oral sex with very little risk, provided the herpes sufferer is on suppressive antiviral and you use adequate protection such as a condom or dental dam. And don't forget, there are a myriad of ways to explore lovemaking if you or your partner are having an outbreak of sores. You can try mutual masturbation, using high quality sex toys such as Lelo Vibrators or if the partner with the outbreak doesn't suffer from oral herpes as well, he or she can safely perform oral sex on the non-infected partner. Just be sure to always use protection and keep up your daily medication to help keep the risk of shedding the virus down. If you do have some intimacy during an outbreak, make sure you both wash your hands and body thoroughly afterwards. Sex after herpes might be a little different, but with a bit of care and some variety and imagination, you can still experience a satisfying and fulfilling sex life. Misconceptions about sex toys over the years have had no effect on the growth of the sex toy industry. Let's consider some of the myths and misconceptions surrounding luxury sex toys. To begin we first need a better understanding of what myths really are and how they start. Myths and gossip seem to live side by side when it comes to misconceptions about anything. High quality sex toys are not exempt from this gossip. Most myths begin when people create tales to explain things which they don't fully understand. Certain stereotypes can become associated with something and will feed the myth to grow even faster. As the story is told and retold the facts become more exaggerated and a following soon forms. The true meaning of what the story is associated with becomes lost in the stories and soon a myth is born. The myth, in part, may be based on some truth but has became so exaggerated it can be hard to tell fact from fiction. One big misconception about sex toys over the years is that they are only used by people who have no sexual partners, or by gay men and women. And that sex toys are kinky and used by prostitutes or for weird sex practices. Stereotyping in this manor has always been around, and most of us grew up hearing these kinds of stories. These are all myths, sex toys are used by normal every day people all the time. Other misconceptions surrounding sex toys are that many people believe that using vibrators can de-sensitize the female anatomy. There has been no medical documentation to support this in anyway. The documentation that has been published suggests that the use of high end sex toys can be a benefit to produce a more pleasurable experience. Luxury vibrators will not cause de-sensitization but can aid in giving a more intense and pleasurable orgasm when used properly. Another misconception is that using luxury sex toys will take the place of a partner. Sex toys when used between couples can add more intensity to the orgasmic experience. During sexual intercourse, for example, a woman's clitoris is not being stimulated by penetration. Clitoral stimulation is what brings most women to orgasm. The use of a sex toy along with intercourse can assure a climax every time. Therefore, sex toys would never take the place of a partner, but could certainly make the experience a better one. Who doesn't like to see their sexual partner climax every time they have sex? The facts are, the sex toy industry has grown by leaps and bounds over the past ten years. Has that growth been solely from sales to single people with no sexual partner, or gay men and women, or to prostitutes? It's not likely since it is estimated that the sex toy industry will gross not in the millions this year, but in the billions. More than 10 billion dollars this year, in the United States alone, and not all those sales could possibly be to a small group. So unless the US population is made up mainly by single gay prostitutes performing weird sex acts, while holding down a very good paying job to support this huge growth in profits, someone else must be buying sex toys, some one just like you. Otherwise the industry would not continue to grow each year. So why then do so many of us have a hard time excepting that sex toys are not weird and are in fact normal for the enhancement of every day sexual encounters by anyone? Sometimes it's hard to communicate our sexual desires and open our minds to something different, and something we may have even been taught was weird or kinky. Many people have the fear that they may appear to fit that stereotype in the myths if they use sex toys. Every one knows a friend of a friend that uses sex toys. What you don't realize is that friend that knows a friend, probably uses sex toys also. More and more couples and single people are enjoying the added pleasures of sex toys, along with their regular sexual practices. Every day, normal people are buying sex toys. No one knows because they buy them on line and have them discreetly shipped to their home. Is using sex toys kinky or weird? Let's define kinky before we decide (a slang word to describe showing or appealing to bizarre or deviant tastes especially of a sexual or erotic nature) as defined in the urban dictionary. What does this mean? Kinky would by definition mean something different for almost every one. Everyone has different taste and what seems normal to one person may not seem normal to another. This would mean that in a sense everyone could be considered kinky. Would using new sex toys be considered weird? Again, this is another misunderstood term used to describe something that is considered unconventional or out of the norm. True, to most people, any type of sex other than intercourse could be considered unconventional. Since it is common knowledge, that most people orgasm only once, during sex, this could be considered normal or conventional to most. If a couple wanted to experience multiple orgasms, or more intense orgasms, would that be weird? To some, multiple orgasms may only be a fantasy. But to those who are adventurous enough to use sex toys in the privacy of their bedroom, this may be considered normal and conventional to them. Now that we have the myth of sex toys out in the open, it's up to you to decide where you stand on the topic. Would it be safe to say that most people are kinky in some way? And those who choose to remain having one small orgasm each time they have sex, rather than several mind blowing orgasms, may just be the weird ones? Forget everything you learned growing up about what's weird or kinky. No one but you will ever know you use sex toys unless you tell them. So pick up some sex toys and join the weird and kinky people using them, and experience mind blowing multiple orgasms every time you have sex. Also read: 12 Ways to Make Sex Last Longer Harness dildos have slowly made their way into mainstream consciousness. The first time a woman straps on a fully equipped harness dildo maybe a comical site. For any women it certainly a novel experience looking between her thighs and seeing a penis shaped new sex toy looking back at her. It is crucial to get used to it so walking around in the harness dildo for a while will soon allow you to become comfortable with it. A harness dildo isn't about substitution but allows couples to bring new ideas and techniques into their love-making for both partners to enjoy. It can allow the woman in a straight/gay relationship to feel the power for the first time as she lives out a fantasy of control through different types of love making. For a male who is open to suggestions he can live out a fantasy of submission. The whole idea of the harness love aid is to open up the bedroom to experimentation and this leads to great fun. If you feel a dildo and high end sex toy harness maybe ideal for you then we would suggest three different criteria that you may want to look out for when considering the right one:
When you are considering a harness love aid you don't need to use the whole length but a short dildo can be very frustrating as you may end up not getting the desired penetration that you and your partner want. Firmer dildos are recommended for harness use. The ideal choice is the silicone option if they are affordable and in your budget. Also read: Where is the Male G Spot? |
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